CHRIST-CENTERED MENTORSHIP

Premarital Mentorship & Officiant

Whether your wedding is months away or right around the corner, we’ll walk alongside you as you prepare not only for the day you say “I do,” but for the marriage that begins when the ceremony is over.

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Choose the Right Premarital Experience for You

4 Sessions Before Marriage

Build a strong foundation before you say “I do.” Walk through four Christ-centered sessions focused on your faith, relationship, and the marriage you're preparing to build.

The wedding is one day. The marriage is the rest of your life.

You will spend months planning the flowers, the playlist, and the seating chart. But the marriage you are building deserves much more attention than the wedding you are planning. Most couples wish they had started these conversations sooner. This is your chance to start them now.

Premarital Mentorship

Premarital Mentorship + Officiant

4 Sessions + Wedding Officiant

Prepare for your marriage with Troy and Amy, then have Troy officiate a ceremony that's rooted in Christ and personal to your story.

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Premarital + Officiant + Newlywed Mentorship

4 Before + Officiant + 2 After

Our most complete experience. Prepare before the wedding, have Troy officiate your ceremony, and continue walking with Troy and Amy as you establish healthy rhythms in your first season of marriage.

Premarital Mentorship

The conversations worth having before you say “I do.”

Marriage doesn't become strong because you never struggle. It becomes stronger when you learn how to turn toward Christ and toward one another when you do. We'll help you have honest conversations now, understand each other more deeply, and begin building the biblical foundation and practical tools you'll carry into marriage.

Intimacy

Biblical intimacy is about more than sex. It's about being fully known and loved—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. We'll create space for honest conversations about expectations, boundaries, past experiences, affection, sex, and building a marriage where both of you can experience trust and closeness.

Faith

Jesus is not simply one part of your marriage. He is the foundation. We'll talk honestly about where each of you is in your relationship with Christ and help you begin establishing rhythms of Scripture, prayer, church community, forgiveness, and pursuing Jesus together.

Finances

Money can reveal a lot about what we value, fear, and expect. We’ll talk honestly about spending, saving, debt, giving, budgeting, financial goals, and how you’ll make decisions together so money becomes something you steward as a team—not something that divides you.

Family & Future

You’re not just planning a wedding—you’re building a life together. We’ll talk about children, family relationships, traditions, boundaries, careers, where you want to go, and the kind of home you hope to build as you seek God’s direction for your future together.

Expectations & Roles

Every couple enters marriage with expectations—many they've never actually talked about. We'll explore finances, responsibilities, family, spiritual leadership, household roles, careers, and what each of you believes marriage should look like so unspoken expectations don't become future resentment.

Communication

How do you handle conflict? What happens when one of you shuts down, gets defensive, or feels unheard? We'll help you recognize the patterns you each bring into marriage and practice healthier ways to listen, communicate, and work through conflict together.

By the time Troy stands with you on your wedding day, you won't be standing in front of someone who just met you.

Through premarital mentorship, Troy and Amy will have spent time learning your story, walking through your faith, hearing what God has done in your relationship, and helping you prepare for the covenant you're about to make.

That's what makes your ceremony personal.

A ceremony rooted in Christ and shaped by your story.

Officiant services

WE KNOW YOUR STORY
Before a word of your ceremony is written, we've already spent time getting to know you. Your story, your faith, what you love about one another, what you've walked through, and what God is building between you become part of the ceremony.
CHRIST AT THE CENTER
Your ceremony is more than a celebration of your relationship. It's the beginning of a marriage covenant before God. Scripture, prayer, your vows, the message, and the elements you choose are intentionally centered on Christ and the commitment you're making to one another.
PERSONAL TO THE TWO OF YOU
We work with you to create a ceremony that feels genuine and reflects your relationship. From Scripture and personal elements to vows, communion, or other meaningful moments, we'll help shape a ceremony that honors God while still sounding like you.

We're not simply preparing to perform your ceremony. We're walking with you toward the covenant you'll make when you get there.

  • We are so grateful to Pastor Troy for the role he played in preparing us for marriage. From our very first premarital sessions, we appreciated how genuine and meaningful our conversations were. He didn’t just give us advice; he shared his own experiences, which made it easy for us to relate and feel comfortable being open and honest. One of the biggest things he taught us was the importance of always seeking Christ first, no matter what season of life or marriage we may be walking through. He reminded us that no marriage is perfect, that challenges are inevitable, but that keeping Christ at the center of our relationship makes all the difference. That is something we have carried with us into our marriage and continue to remind each other of. We are thankful not only for the wisdom and encouragement he shared leading up to our wedding, but also for the genuine relationship we’ve continued to have with him since then. His guidance has truly left a lasting impact on us, and we know God will continue to use him and Amy to encourage and strengthen other marriages.

    Matthew and Sandra Gonzales

Is This Right For Us?

You are engaged and want to prepare well

The wedding planning is exciting. But you also want to make sure the marriage underneath it is built on something real. Not assumptions. Not hope. A foundation in Jesus that can carry you through the life you'll build together.

You want a Christ-centered ceremony

You want your wedding to honor God—not simply through the words spoken during the ceremony, but through what your marriage represents. We'll get to know your story so the ceremony reflects your faith, your relationship, and the covenant you're making before God.

You are considering engagement and want to be wise about it

Maybe you're not engaged yet, but you believe marriage could be ahead. Starting these conversations before the proposal gives you an opportunity to talk honestly about faith, expectations, communication, finances, family, intimacy, and the future before making that commitment.

You aren't currently connected to a church

Maybe your church doesn't offer premarital preparation. Maybe you've recently moved, haven't found a church home, have been away from church for a season, or aren't sure where you belong.

You are still welcome here. We want to understand your story, talk honestly about your relationship with Jesus, and help you see why being connected to a healthy local church matters as you build a Christ-centered marriage.

If you are engaged or seriously considering marriage, you don't need to have everything figured out. You don't even need to have a wedding date yet. You simply need to be willing to have honest conversations, pursue Christ, and intentionally prepare for the marriage you're hoping to build.

What couples usually ask.

  • Our Premarital Mentorship + Officiant packages are designed to help you prepare not only for your wedding day, but for the marriage that follows.

    Both packages include four premarital sessions with Troy and Amy, the SYMBIS assessment and review, practical exercises between sessions, ceremony planning, and officiating by Troy.

    Together, we'll walk through your relationship with Christ, communication, conflict, expectations, finances, intimacy, family, and the future you're preparing to build together.

    For couples who want continued support after the wedding, our Premarital + Officiant + Post-Marriage Mentorship package also includes two additional sessions after you're married to help you navigate the transition into marriage, strengthen healthy rhythms, and work through real-life challenges as they arise.

    Our goal isn't simply to prepare you for a wedding. It's to help you build a Christ-centered marriage.

  • Yes. Every couple begins with our four-session premarital mentorship experience, but you do not have to use Troy as your wedding officiant.

    If you already have an officiant, you can choose Premarital Mentorship only. If you'd like Troy to officiate your wedding, you can choose Premarital Mentorship + Officiant, with the option to add four Newlywed Mentorship sessions for continued support after the wedding.

    Because we believe a Christ-centered ceremony should reflect your relationship, faith, and the covenant you're preparing to make, officiant services are only available as part of a premarital mentorship package and are not offered separately.

    Whether Troy officiates your wedding or not, our focus is the same: helping you prepare for the marriage that follows.

  • SYMBIS stands for Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. It's an assessment designed to help engaged and newly married couples better understand themselves and each other.

    We'll use your results to guide conversations around areas such as personality, communication, expectations, finances, conflict, family backgrounds, and other dynamics that can affect your marriage.

    It's not a pass-or-fail test. It's a tool that helps us have better conversations before you say “I do.”

  • No. This is Christ-centered premarital mentorship, not licensed counseling or therapy. We’ll walk with you through important conversations about faith, communication, conflict, finances, intimacy, family, expectations, and the marriage you’re preparing to build.

  • Our desire isn't to prepare you for the wedding and then disappear.

    If your package includes your four post-marriage sessions, we'll continue walking with you after you say “I do.” Those sessions give you a place to talk honestly about what you're experiencing as newlyweds, work through challenges as they arise, reinforce the tools you've learned, and continue building healthy rhythms together.

    Marriage mentorship doesn't end because the ceremony did.

  • That’s okay—and it’s one of the reasons premarital mentorship can be so valuable. You don’t need to come in having everything figured out or feeling completely certain about every part of your future.

    We’ll create space for honest conversations about your relationship, faith, expectations, concerns, and the areas where you may still need to grow. Our role isn’t to make the decision for you, but to help you slow down, seek God together, ask important questions, and approach the decision with wisdom and clarity.

    It’s better to have the hard conversations before “I do” than to avoid them because the wedding is already being planned.

  • We recommend beginning at least four to six months before your wedding date. This gives us time to move through premarital mentorship without rushing, complete your SYMBIS assessment, have meaningful conversations, and prepare a personal, Christ-centered ceremony.

    Already closer to your wedding date? Reach out anyway. Depending on our availability and your timeline, we may still be able to walk with you.

  • Yes. Troy is available to travel for weddings. Whether your ceremony is local or a destination wedding, we’d love to hear what you’re planning.

    Travel availability and any additional expenses related to airfare, lodging, transportation, or extended travel will be discussed with you in advance so there are no surprises.

    Start with a discovery call, and we can talk through your wedding date, location, and plans together.

  • Not necessarily. You don't need to have everything figured out, and you don't have to be at the same place in your walk with Christ to begin.

    Kingdom Chaos Premarital Mentorship is built with Christ as the foundation. Throughout our time together, we'll talk openly about your relationships with Jesus, prayer, Scripture, church community, and what it means to build a marriage with Christ as its foundation.

    If you're not currently connected to a local church, we'd love to connect with you. There may be hurt, questions, uncertainty, or simply a season where you've gotten disconnected. We want to understand your story and where we can help you walk closer with Jesus.

    We simply ask that you come with an open heart, willing to grow in your relationship with Christ and explore what it looks like to follow Him together in marriage.